Grandchildren and Alzheimer’s disease
Posted by Jennifer Hoadley, Program Director, BayView Memory Support Neighborhood on 1 April 2008 | 0 Comments
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Alzheimer's disease,
grandchildren,
visiting tips,
family support
Alzheimer’s disease can be especially confusing for your young child or teenager. They may feel hurt not to be remembered or scared by a grandparent’s change in behavior. Educate your child about the disease, prepare for visits, and talk often about feelings.
It's a disease
Even young children can be taught that Alzheimer’s is a disease that affects the brain. The Alzheimer’s Association has compiled a list of resources appropriate for children. Books may help your child better understand the disease and to realize that their feelings are normal. Reassure your child that Alzheimer’s is not contagious. Scientists are researching causes and treatment options. Explain that the disease makes it hard to remember names and faces or may cause them to feel lost or confused easily.
Visiting Tips
Have your child help plan an activity for each visit. Set a time limit in advance. Even 15-20 minutes together can be a good visit. Emphasize that love and affection are appreciated even if names are forgotten. Teach your child that is important not to argue with a person with Alzheimer’s and that it is okay to ask for help if they feel intimidated. Relax, smile, and speak clearly.
10 Activities for your Visits
- Color pictures
- Read a story out loud
- Look at travel books
- Listen to music
- Toss a ball
- Make a scrapbook
- Watch a sports game
- Brush or comb each other’s hair
- Play with dominos
- Assemble a puzzle
Feelings
Your child may express a range of emotions regarding your parent’s Alzheimer’s. Encourage your child to talk with you about how he feels before or after a visit with your parent; it’s okay to be afraid or even angry. If your child acts indifferent or ignores your parent she may be scared to interact—try watching a video together next visit to help your child feel comfortable. Addressing your child’s feelings directly will help you work together to develop coping skills. Remember - Alzheimer’s disease affects the whole family.
Online Resources:
http://www.seniorlivingresidences.com/how-to-have-a-good-visit
http://www.alz.org/living_with_alzheimers_just_for_kids_and_teens.asp
http://kidshealth.org/kid/grownup/conditions/alzheimers.html
(Categories: Family Partnership)
